9/21/2017 1 Comment Life Choice: To Tell the Truth?Introduction: In this blog post I listened to the Podcast What you Don't Know by Lulu Wang. This podcast was about Lulu and the time her and her family found out her grandmother had stage 4 cancer and did not have long to live. Lulu’s family made a decision not to tell her grandmother about her own death. Throughout the podcast Lulu is indecisive on to keep to her culture or her grandmother’s. In this blog, I will discuss the reasons I agree with the family’s decision and a time when I had to tell a difficult truth.
Although I grew up in a different culture and country as Lulu’s family, I agree with the their decision to keep their knowledge of their grandmother’s dying from her. As I grew up, I realized that in this country it is normal for a family to be aware of a death or an upcoming death, however; in China, where the grandmother grew up, it is normal for death to be somewhat hidden. The grandmother had kept the same secret from her own husband about his own death so it would be unlikely that she would be upset that they did not tell her. Also, in China they believe that happiness is the best cure for illness so why would they tell her something completely depressing. If the grandmother found out she was dying she most likely would have started to mourn her own death. Instead, what the family actually did was put on a happy event for her so she would be happy. Even if the family did tell her and tried to keep her happy, the thought of her death would be lurking in her mind. This past weekend I had a difficult truth. My parents went away this past weekend and I was left in charge of my little sister. Part of my responsibility was to make sure she was home by her curfew, which was 10:30 PM. I let her go out to her school football game and expected her to text me if she needed any ride and to let me know where she was going. As the time past 10:30 I started to worry because she was not answering any of my calls and seemed as if she was nowhere to be found. I had to decided wether to call my parents who were 400 miles away and inform them about the situation, or keep my sisters trust and to continue looking for her. At around 11:30 I decided I should call them even though I knew my sister would be in a lot of trouble and possibly loosing her trust along with it. It impacted both of us in the long run because she got in tremendous amount of trouble and it also impacted me because she lost her trust in me as sister.
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9/26/2017 07:11:20 pm
Kacie, I found it interesting to read a different opinion from mine. I do agree that their is a chance that the thought of death would be lurking in her mind. I also can relate to your situation with your sister, because I have a sister in high school too, and have had similar situations.
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